Have you seen this?
I have issues with the common men who were interviewed.
Depraved, deplorable bastards.
Bottom line: I will wear my short skirts and LBDs, I will get drunk, I will roam around with my friends in the night, I will get stoned, I will back answer and not be passive or quiet, I will watch porn, I will flirt around, I will have an affair with some guy I find hot, I will do everything and anything that pleases me, I will do everything that I feel makes me happy and lets me enjoy the one life that I have.
We all will. Every last one of us.
We will do everything that you have the right to.
So unless you are Lord Rama who has lived a ‘perfect’ life (note the sarcasm) without having made one mistake, don’t you fucking judge us or our characters.
And I dare you to lay a hand a finger on any of us on the premise that I am easy. I will fucking castrate you with shaving blade.
P.S: I know this might be extreme but I have been pushed to my limits by the comments those guys make. They make my skin crawl with disgust, make me feel unsafe in the country I call my own – everyday for 12 years I said “India is my country, all Indians are my brothers and sisters and I love my country.” And I said it with complete conviction. Today, I repent it. I repent being in the same category as them.
I completely get it why you are mad.. heck I read some of the politcians say something when i was in india and it made me ANGRY ...
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I don't know what is worse, their words or our incapability of killing them.
DeleteI think its neither of those .. its more the incapability of removing them from leadership.. if we manage to do that they cant say those words and hence we have killed them :)
DeleteI just read that comment from "SHIVA".. its these people who are more dangerous .. leaders we can see .. what about these hidden people ...
DeleteYou made a lot of sense! These people are ridiculous! :@
ReplyDeleteAnd then some. Ugh.
DeleteI am in agreement with you and you said it as basic as one can get-good for you!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Birgit!
Deleteno one can dictate what we should be doing....and we have every right to go where our mind goes.....so to hell with those who think otherwise...but u know what...instead of the anger.....do it with a smile, beacuse either it will warm the way to others heart or piss them off really bad...either way u win!!
ReplyDeleteMakes sense. I shall try that but sometimes it all just gets too much to handle and my blood boils.
DeleteYour anger is totally justified. Period!
ReplyDeleteThank you!
DeleteTwo days back in office, I had the same discussion with two guys and now they think I'm "loose".
ReplyDeleteLeave that. Today, one senior told me to dress appropriately. I was wearing a kurti. He said so because 1 whole cm of my waist was peeking out from the cut on the side. He further says that he treats me like his daughter, which he actually does, and says so because our office employs male gender, too.
I don't even know what to say.
Sad doesn't even begin to describe our country's state.
Wtf?! What about when they leave the top buttons of their shirt open?! Tell him to go boil his head.
DeletePeople will say things, and that's the faulty mannerism of our dual faced society ... but then, it's your life, and you have every right to live it your way :-)
ReplyDeleteIt is when they interfere with that right that the Hulk in all of us surfaces.
DeleteGumption .. Right on ..
ReplyDeleteThank you :)
DeleteAmen!
ReplyDeleteoh god what a link that was! makes me sick
I wonder what I'm proud of my country for. Ugh.
Deletewomen should blame themselves for such situation.there are always people to dominate if there is an opportunity to exploit irrespective of gender.why women din't evolve psychologically with same pace as men.even today,women can give up morals for sake of comfort and surrender to men.this is not just about india,across globe this is a trend.
ReplyDeleteask any sports star or pop star in europe,usa,why you want to become one?the answer you will get is ,THE MORE POPULAR AND RICH YOU ARE ,YOU CAN GET LAID WITH MORE WOMEN.when women can sell their morals for a price ,you will always find men who can exploit.
hmm am wiser than lord ram and did live flawless life.i don't want to write in detail coz you wrote this post for some blog challenege.
Bravo Shiva, well done sir.. that comment sure shows how evolved you are... having a name like Shiva sure has not given you an ounce of the morals that Shiva had .. BRAVO
DeleteBikram
It isn't just some post for some blog challenge. Part of it, yes. But every word was meant. Just FYI. Please feel free to write in more detail. I'd love to hear from the likes of you.
ReplyDeleteLet's not talk about 'morals' shall we? Not when we have such wide gaps between the morals men are judged by and those which women are judged by. Lets leave 'morals' out of this.
I don't know where you are coming from but you had me the moment you said "women should blame themselves". Men who think like you, who think that women can be 'bought' with 'comfort' are EXACTLY what is wrong with the country and indeed, the world. Also, did you just say women didn't 'evolve' psychologically? Dude... are you trying to say that men are more emotionally developed than women? That is just outright funny because it goes against every study, every belief, every status quo between men and women there ever was. It makes me think education has made no difference in life.
You say 'surrender'. WTF. Are we slaves/weak to 'surrender'? Do you really believe that men are superior? There might be women who want to sell their morals for a price and I'm sure they have their reasons for it, good and bad. But does that give men the right to make that a blanket statement like the one you just did? Sunny Leone likes being looked at in her state of undress. That's her choice, her work, her bread and butter. You have no right to compare the rest of us with her and treat us the same.
You say 'irrespective of gender' - give me instances where men have been exploited by women and it has been a danger to the man's life and well-being. Instances where it has become difficult for him to dress up and leave home, instances where they have had to return back before dark, instances where they have had to change routes, change means of transport because of the cheapness of/the physical danger posed by women. Actually forget instances, one will do.
Are you claiming to not have made any mistakes in your life? Ever? So are you not human, then? Don't say things out of bravado unless you can back yourself up. And what was it that you were trying to say with that statement? That you have the right to judge me and my character? You are most welcome to it for then I will just go ahead and add you to the long list of 'men' who are not man enough to respect a woman for having the same lifestyle as you and the rest of the world and accept her for who she is. No loss of love for either of us.
And you can thank your lucky stars that you posted the comment a couple of days later, coz if you had said all this then, I'd have found it very difficult to be this decent to you. I have no patience for the likes of you. If I'm coming across as rude, please understand that it is completely intentional because you are the kind that I am railing about in the post itself.
And last but not the least, I dare you to come and say that all the bad things which are happening to women is their own fault to my face. I dare you to say that the woman in the burkha and the four year old child were asking for it. I dare you to say that they 'gave up morals for the sake of comfort and surrendered to men' to any woman's face.
hmm ,i can't stop smiling after reading your reply.whatever you have said is conventional stuff every girl does to defend their things.
ReplyDeletelet me keep things single,when we speak of something or when we want to have a perception on something,the best possible thing one's mind can do is "just close your eyes and think/look at world" .whatever you see in mind has boundaries and it reflects your maturity level or magnitude of intellect. from above comment,one can say your mind could not read this world to perfection.to know things to perfection,one should have led flawless life and then you will have perceptions of world within.its called evolution of human psychology over centuries.am not a psychology guy but i can analyse things in seconds.
check for alex comments in below blog,i can't write in detail coz your blog space won't be enough on this issue and certain things can't be understood by just reading few lines but one's exposure to every aspect of society makes you understand.you have to experience that to understand all such stuff.
http://dilawarrajput.wordpress.com/2012/09/10/perception-of-women/
Well, well that just sounds like a load of horse shit for when you shoot your mouth off and then can't back anything up:)
DeleteIts funny how you don't mention the actual issue here, not once.
I was wondering if you were actually capable of making a point, making a case for yourself, I have gotten my answer. Good bye and good riddance to bad rubbish. I don't want to defend 'my things' any more :P you can keep out of my way and view the world with your 'in a second analysis' all you like.
hmm,you and your chmachas prove all the time that women are very superficial when it comes to intellect like they do their face with make-up.i think you are another frustrated and depressed girl who lacks clarity in life or on society.when delhi girls in their branded jeans and t-shirt were protesting,media asked them what they were expecting,the answer from these dumb girls you get is, "SECURITY FOR WOMEN,PROTECTION FOR WOMEN,SAFETY FOR WOMEN" THEY CAN'T SPEAK EVEN SINGLE LINE BEYOND HOW THEY CAN CHANGE THIS SOCIETY OR WHATS LEADING TO SUCH INCIDENTS COZ THEY ARE JUST HOUSE BUNNIES OR CLASSROOM BUNNIES OR CORPORATE OFFICE CUBICLE BUNNIES WHO NEVER THOUGHT OF SOCIETY OR WANT TO BRING CHANGE IN SOCIETY WITH THEIR MORALLY RIGHT BEHAVIOR.
DeleteWHY DO YA HAVE COMMENT MODERATION OR APPROVAL,IF YOU ARE BRAVE AND WISE,ONE DON'T NEED COMMENT MODERATION OR APPROVAL. ONLY COWARDS BLOCK WISE COMMENTS OR ONLY COWARDS USE ABUSIVE LANGUAGE COZ THEY WANT TO COMPENSATE THEIR IGNORANCE WITH FOUL LANGUAGE.HMM DID YA RUN OUT OF WISDOM COZ YOU DIN'T UNDERSTAND WHAT I WROTE OR YOU DON'T HAVE ACCEPTANCE TO TRUTH.
WOMEN CAN NEVER GET EQUAL RIGHTS AS LONG AS THEY USE THEIR SEXUALITY TO GET THEIR WORK DONE OR TO PLEASE PEOPLE. ITS UNIVERSAL TRUTH .
EVEN GOD CAN'T CHANGE WOMEN AND THEIR LEAST THINKING CAPABILITIES, I TRIED MY BEST TO EMPOWER BUT EVERYONE SEEMS TO BE DUMB BLONDES INCLUDING GUYS (B) WHO ARE SUPPORTING YOU.
LOL, sure, I'm a "house/classroom/office cubicle bunny" who "never thinks of society". And I'm a "coward" for "moderating and publishing" every last one of your senseless comments (just so I understand, do you even know how comment moderation works?) And I'm the dumb blonde who unfortunately doesn't feel the need to capitalize every word. Happy now? You can stop trolling and go find something useful to do, please. Move along now, little boy.
DeleteOh just btw, "do the face with make-up"? That's classic :P
DeletePeeVee: Completely unrelated question to whatever's happening here, but why does everyone who talks about 'empowering women', sound ridiculously funny?
DeleteAlso, FYI, I am a big fan of Shiva for studying the 'evolution of humanity' with great meticulousness and precision; for 'keeping things single'; for analyzing the global trends; for rightfully standing-up (eventhough he was probably sitting down in his chair while he typed the comment) against comment moderation for analyzing things in seconds (that despite not being a psycho guy... I mean, psychology guy); and last but not the least, for having lived a perfect and wiser life than Lord Ram (I had goosebumps at this point).
Also, PeeVee, you don't even deserve to comment back because you don't even have enough space for his arguments in your blog. Let alone having enough brains to argue. And not all guys are dumb blondes, okay? I have black hair. And I use parachute hair oil everyday.
PS: WOMEN CAN NEVER GET EQUAL RIGHTS AS LONG AS THEY USE THEIR SEXUALITY TO GET THEIR WORK DONE OR TO PLEASE PEOPLE. ITS UNIVERSAL TRUTH .
hey athira, you lack basic intellect in understanding society or having clarity in gender psychology.wow,according to me,people who use f-words,s-words are frustrated people who use vulgar language to compensate their ignorance.i never use such words coz i never run out of wisdom.hmm from my school days i had huge fan following among girls coz of my looks and my behavior,whats inferirity complex?i never went after every girl though i had opportunity coz freaking with every girl and sharing personal details will dilute one's personality. i have two elder sisters and they like me so much coz i have more affection for them than my parents and they are not like you who dwells in western culture without inheriting own civilisation.well athira ,girls like you are in plenty with access to internet and least to access to their culture or civilization.i can't say anything more coz you won't understand.
ReplyDeletei was busy with my commitments ,so its a late reply.
You really do have no life, eh :P
ReplyDeletehmm peevee ,what's this "no life" thing.i hear this line from girls often.you girls can't compete with intellect of boys,so you have framed certain lines to defend yourself all the time.am not arguing for the sake of it,i don't have blog like you or i don't have time to reply to everyone's comments,but whenever i write something,i would to complete the conversation with a rational end.hmm priyanka ,you are just funny :-) .coz i am speechless whenever i encounter conventional girls. but i appreciate you for replying coz most girls don't even like to reply when some one hurts their ego.
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